Two Memoirs About Growing Up in Severely Dysfunctional Families
As a product of one of these myself, they always interest me – how on earth do they survive? The answer, as I knew for myself, is that they often do not – and and even the survivors are marked for life.
Most people want to know why I interested in such horrible stories. Their strategy is to forget their own childhood – or anything like it.
I was part of a men’s therapy group back in the Valley (Silicon Valley). And I was always amazed by the stories another guy told us about his childhood. I thought mine was bad – but it couldn’t hold a candle to his. He was a successful engineer in the Valley – but his personal life was a mess. This was such a common combination – it seemed normal at the time.
I listened to With or Without You: A Memoir - but never finished it. I am now listening to Her: A Memoir - and I think I will finish it, even though it is a much longer book.
Why? Because the last book has class - it is literature. Something that attracts me – even though it repels most readers.
The writer was an identical twin – whose twin died of an overdose. She had everything going for her – except what in a man would be called intestinal fortitude - a strong center.