Archive for the ‘ Literature ’ Category

Two Memoirs About Growing Up in Severely Dysfunctional Families

As a product of one of these myself, they always interest me – how on earth do they survive? The answer, as I knew for myself, is that they often do not – and and even the survivors are marked for life.

Most people want to know why I interested in such horrible stories. Their strategy is to forget their own childhood – or anything like it.

I was part of a men’s therapy group back in the Valley (Silicon Valley). And I was always amazed by the stories another guy told us about his childhood. I thought mine was bad – but it couldn’t hold a candle to his. He was a successful engineer in the Valley – but his personal life was a mess. This was such a common combination – it seemed normal at the time.

I listened to With or Without You: A Memoir - but never finished it. I am now listening to Her: A Memoir - and I think I will finish it, even though it is a much longer book.

Why? Because the last book has class - it is literature. Something that attracts me – even though it repels most readers.

The writer was an identical twin – whose twin died of an overdose. She had everything going for her – except what in a man would be called intestinal fortitude - a strong center.

Flaubert – The Despair of Everyday Life

The radio is playing loudly from the house next door – one of the curses of living in Latin America. Being able to ignore it is one of my most useful accomplishments.

I am reading Madame Bovary - in the new translation by Lydia Davis. This is Literature – with a capital L. Emma (Madame Bovary) is having an imaginary love affair with a local clerk, Léon. And she despises her husband, the local doctor in a provincial village.

I am struck, once again, by how some of the best insights into the feminine psyche come from masculine authors – and not from masculine philosophers, theologians, or psychologists – who do not seem to understand them at all – and do not want to.

I have know several women who also had to have an imaginary love affair going on. And several who despised their husbands – which seemed to be exactly what their husbands wanted.

Get the book – it doesn’t cost much.

A Woman of Her Own Time

This is a review of With or Without You: A Memoir.

As soon as I started listening to this, my first impulse was to trash it as trash. And I have not changed my opinion – but only put it into context – the natural work of a trashy culture. It is not literature – but people are no longer interested in that. They want trash – and Domenica Ruta knows how to dish that out.

She has a big advantage over me – she can remember her dysfunctional childhood – in amazing detail. I cannot remember much of anything before I was ten. It was too terrible for me to remember – and no one who was there during that terrible time wanted to remember it either.

Her family relished their terrible lives and wanted to remember all of it. Not knowing that one of their own would cash in on it with this book.

Literature Meant to be Read Aloud

I downloaded Pride and Prejudice from Audible because I got it as a free Valentine present. Audible (a subsidiary of Amazon) knows how keep its customers happy.

Audible is a particularly good choice for this, because you can easily imagine yourself back at the time of its writing – in 1813. The author, Jane Austen, delights in putting clever language into the mouths of her characters.

Want to hear what I mean? Click on Sample below the picture.

Back then, readers were much more social and liked to read out loud to each other – taking their time, and commenting to each other as they read. Life moved slower then, the fastest thing on earth was a railroad train. But it would not be too long before electricity (in the form of the telegraph) would destroy that world forever.

We cannot imagine that world now. And we cannot imagine anyone being that interested in literature.

Or being that interested in people.

Turgenev

I lead a strange life – things that interest others do not interest me at all – and things that interest me do not interest anyone else.

Turgenev is in that later category. I only heard about him recently. But I am now listening to his Fathers and Sons – and wondering how I ever got along without him.

So far as I know, none of my readers are interested in Literature. Is this true?

Two Excellent Articles in Harper’s

The February issue, that is.

The first is Thomas Frank’s delightful take down of the movie Lincoln, in the front of the magazine. The second is a review of the book Madame Blavatsky: The Mother of Modern Spirituality in the back. Either one will make you glad you are a reader.

I have a personal gripe about the use of the word spiritual - and I used to complain whenever I heard it used. No more, I just keep my mouth shut and suffer in silence. I don’t suffer fools gladly – I just suffer.

Harper’s online is just the opposite of what it is on paper – it is telling its readers that it is not all interested in them. In this day and age – not smart at all.

Vino de Mora and Julian

People often want to know how to be happy – as if that made any difference. I see such people every day, laying on the ground, passed out – with their empty bottle of booze beside them. Everyone ignores them, and passes on.

It is more complicated than that. Alcohol (or some other drug) is a big help but it clearly is not enough in itself. We are complicated beings and no one solution fits all. What I am going to describe only works for me – and not always at that.

First, I went for a hard walk, determined to build up my stamina after my bicycle accident. No one had the foggiest idea what I was doing. No matter, I came home, had a shower, and had a lunch of left-overs.

I had discovered some chiles mundial at the market, and used them to make my own version of gallo pinto (the Tico version of beans and rice). This was washed down with vino de mora (raspberry wine) which is cheap and can be bought anywhere (not just at liquor stores). To this was added two varieties of Tico sweets, whose name I will not even mention – but they include caramelized milk and coconut. Local perversions everyone is familiar with.

And. to top it off, I read Gore Vidal’s Julian. Literature, for me, is also a drug – but one without hangovers. Except the desire to do even better – the curse of any writer.

The Pleasures of Literature

Where on earth did I get this? Not from my father, certainly – who had no taste in literature whatsoever. Not even from my mother, who read to us such things as the Little Colonial stories. During one tragic interval in the story, I burst into tears – to my mother’s intense annoyance. I was not supposed to take the story so seriously, she said. I was amazed in turn, how could she not take the story seriously?

It was then that I began to realize that I was different – that I took life seriously – and emotionally. Something most people find strange.

But not everyone – I discovered other people, although never in person, who did have an interest in Literature. And who wrote about their experiences. As I am doing now.

I am listening now to Ancient Light - which is definitely literature – so much so, I sometimes find it alarming.

It takes me back to my childhood – when time moved more slowly, and where our world (back in a forgotten corner of the Midwest) still had time to be - and to be savored.

I remember one evening in particular - where I and my girl-friend of the moment went for a walk under the stars. She never noticed them, or the lovely evening – but instead took advantage of the moment to tell me how much she hated her father. An amazing hatred, as it turned out, that I never forgot.

I learned, for the first time, how attractive – and how destructive women can be. A strange combination.

Ancient Light

This is the title of a book by John Banville, that I am listening to now. I need a break sometimes from my non-fiction reading – and this is fiction – literature, in fact. It is extremely well written. Like many English writers, I think he is at pains to convince people that they too have sex – and pretty bawdy sex at that.

It is the story of a 15 year-old boy and a 35 year-old married woman – the mother of his best friend at school. Believe it or not, it brings back a similar incident of my own – when I was 15 years old, and the woman was was the wife of our pastor. Her sole objective in life seemed to be to cause as much trouble as possible. And she succeeded admirably – and ended her life later in a late-night single-car accident. The final disaster in a life full of disasters.

I should add that we were very religious. She made sure my mother knew about this incident – and our relatives too. The result was not as she probably expected. My mother was simply baffled. Not because I had lost my virginity – she probably thought this would have happened anyway – but because she could not understand why she (of all people) did it. It made no sense.

She assumed – entirely wrongly – that religious people didn’t do things like this – even though she knew plenty of instances when they did.

As a much older man, I would even say these incidents were more common among the religious than the non-religious. Once something is forbidden, it automatically becomes more desirable.

The Kindle is not for Serious Readers

I have learned this the hard way. I read about the book Human Capitalism from an advertisement in the New York Review. I looked it up on Amazon and read the sample text provided there. But the paper version would not be available until next May! And it would  not be cheap. However, I could buy the Kindle version immediately for much less. So I went with the Kindle version – which I could read with my Kindle app on my Windows PC.

Immediately, I ran into problems. I wanted to refer to sections in the book, and to copy some of them – standard practice for serious writers, such as I fancy myself to be, when I am writing on my blog. All I can to is refer to Kindle locations (such as 235 of 1421) – which is perhaps fair enough – although I have not tested this with another reader. But I cannot copy any text at all! I am practically tongue-tied with frustration.

Of course I looked up the Kindle Help – but it seems to be out-of-date, with no way to tell what version of the Kindle app I am using!

The Kindle may not be for morons – but it is certainly for people with superficial reading and writing skills. Who just want to read text and not do anything with it.

The first two chapters of Human Capitalism (a general overview) are well-worth reading – the rest are not.

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