Archive for the ‘ Sex ’ Category

Inside the Trump Marriage – Melania’s Burden

Vanity Fair

The union made perfect sense for Donald too. After demanding Ivana and needy Marla, Melania would be the perfect mate, one who would be an advertisement for his virility while giving him his “space.” Federico Pignatelli, a longtime Trump friend and business associate, who founded the fashion studio Pier 59, says, “Ivana was an intelligent, entrepreneurial woman. Also a very strong-minded person and very feisty. While instead, Melania . . . really no fights.” For her part, Melania would get a luxurious home where she could indulge her hobbies—Pilates and reading fashion magazines, according to People—in peace, and a promise that she would never have to return to drab Eastern-European prospects. Donald accompanied Melania to her homeland once. “I was there for about 13 minutes,” he later said to Larry King with Melania by his side. “We landed. I said, Hi, Mom. Hi, Dad. Bye.” Eventually Trump brought her family over to New York (where her parents now live for most of the year), allowing her to cut ties with the Old Country.

I was desperate to learn more about Trump, and this article told me a lot. It also told me a lot about the Americans who elected him – and are willing to overlook his boorish behavior. New York City has always had its share of rich and vulgar people – and you get to meet them too.

When I worked in the area, in the Sixties, we always drove to NYC for the weekend, no matter how long the drive – and ignored D.C. It has picked up some since then – since no talent is necessary for access to the instant money available there.

Sex and Money

Sex is important, and money is important. Man is the only animal with both. But without the moxie to manage this explosive mixture.

My personal experience of this was typical. I was obsessed with Sex (with a capital S) and thought it the most important thing in the world – indeed, in the entire universe. I didn’t get along with the girls, relationships were too complicated – so I masterbated a lot. I was, in short, a mixed-up kid. And remained that way for most of my life.

In my old age (I am 79) I could say my celibate behavior is due to increased wisdom – but in truth, it is due to a lack of money. Women (even in Costa Rica) are expensive.

But this simple explanation is not truthful. There have been women down here, perfectly willing to have sex with me, on almost any basis. But I have balked. Why? Because I was not smart enough to manage a sexual relationship.

The ones I had in the past (including a marriage of five years) were a disaster. I came to the conclusion that giving a woman that much power over me, was not a smart idea. I don’t have enough will-power to manage it.

This is no doubt due to the relationship between my father and mother (she was the boss, and she didn’t even try to hide this) and this was typical of the Midwest in general – matriarchies were the rule, and the men died early.

I saw no reason to continue this.

The Female Orgasm

Come Again? Orgasm privilege, casual sex, and female pleasure

I was tempted to pass this one up. I can sympathize with Women’s problems – when considered abstractly. But in practice, I have been as much of a failure at this as anyone.

I am tempted to say “It’s their problem, not mine!” Or “They brought this on themselves – since they have treated men so badly!” Or “We never talk about this!”

The best I can do is just stay out of it – and have no women in my personal life at all.

Fractured: A First Date

NY Times

It’s hard to write about sex, it’s so fundamental – but this gal has a great sense of humor. She’s part of the New York City creative scene, which is practically exploding with talent. She’s also honest, and not afraid to show us what she is really like.

I wonder how long she can keep this up.

The Self-Destruction of the Democratic Party

I am reading Listen, Liberal: Or, What Ever Happened to the Party of the People? Thomas Frank, as usual, is doing a good job of roasting his liberals. You ought to read it.

But he misses something important – the rise of the Information economy – which is really the Computer economy. Which everyone is ignoring – even as it eats their lunch. They are determined not to know – especially about the Computer.

The Democratic Party was one of its victims. They served it (and its trade agreements) with all their might – only to have their Savior turn on them. But for them, this is only natural – they have been bad (by not attaining perfection) and they are being punished for it.

By contrast, I am learning about the Computer – and I have a good feel for what it is. I have gotten in bed with it – but have not gone all the way.

This has completely messed up my sex life – but at my age, that hardly matters.


NY Times – To catch a rapist

This is a long read, because it goes into the subject thoroughly. I hardly need tell you that this is unusual.

The way these cases have been handled in the past has been a national disgrace.  But progress has been made.

Consider this:

‘‘Virtually all sexual-assault victims want validation from the authorities that the crime occurred, and this may be a more critical element of a successful response and investigation than a criminal prosecution or conviction. Regardless of the investigative results, responding officers and investigators have the power to help a person heal from sexual assault.’’


I picked up a Spanx catalog (for free) when I got my weekly mail from a company that flies it from Miami to Costa Rica. I have a cleaning lady who cleans my apartment once a week – and she likes to get woman’s fashion magazines – and the raunchier the better. She and her friends like to see how much American women can get away with.

On the cover it says:

Indulge without the bulge!

The first pages show CEO Sara Blakely at the White House – where, we are told, she and the First Lady are both wearing their Spanx!

Pure hype, of course – but Americans (including American women) are so used to this that it doesn’t faze them! They even buy this stuff – even though it must make it hard for them to piss!